Ofarfin faɗar Ee ko A'a: ƙarfi ba mugunta ba ne; idan muka tsaya kyam, zamu sani a sauƙaƙe mu ce Ee ko A'a "Akwai lokacin falala da lokacin ƙarfi"

Da 'yanci da yardar kaina yanke shawara abubuwan da kuka fifita don kanku kuma ku sami ƙarfin halin cewa Ee kamar yadda ake buƙata kuma A'a kamar yadda ake buƙata, amma idan ya zo ga "A'a", da yawa suna jinkiri ko jinkirta faɗin hakan. Kasance mai gaskiya ga 'yancinka, zuciyarka, ko imaninka. Kace "A'a" ga wasu, a wani yanayi, murmushi da rashin neman gafara.

Don isa can, kuna ƙone babban "Ee" a cikin kanku. Tabbatar da yin abin da ya fi kyau ba abin da ya dace da shi ba wasu. Shin kuna ganin matsalar ta wanzu ne? Tunanin ku ne matsalar.  Akwai wani abu da zaku iya yi don ci gaba, ku daina zama wanda aka azabtar. 

Don samun ci gaban kanka, kuna buƙatar keɓancewa daga wasu mutane da wasu abubuwa. Wannan shine yadda zaku motsa daga sadaukarwa zuwa tallafi. Babu wanda zai taimake ka ka gane kanka; kai kanka ne kake (mai sana'a) mahaliccin bala'in ka ko farin cikin ka. Don haka dole ne mu yi zaɓi. "Idan kana son rashin farin ciki ko kuma idan kana so ka yi farin ciki! "

Karin magana: daga Renée Molly (Dalibi, Kiɗa, Kamaru, Douala, 1999)